What really irks me is that the irrational, juvenile behavior has been tolerated and even encouraged by the people in this group who are sane, mature adults. They don't want to be mean, they don't want to step on their friends' toes, and so they quietly stand by while said friends act in absolutely horrific and ridiculous ways that are deeply hurtful to others.
Personally, I don't get it.
But I've been thinking about this in relation to other areas of my life as well - the prime example being the church (not my church in particular, just "the church" in general). People are pretty routinely allowed to verbally abuse, slander, manipulate, and blame their pastors and each other. Rarely is anyone confronted with so much as a request that they behave in a decent and courteous way. I don't think I've ever heard a sermon or teaching about taking responsibility for our own behavior (hmm...ideas for the future). We let bad behavior slide, thinking we are being loving and accepting. But who is being left in the wake?